My 2nd born Mehrnaz was born a premie, very sick
and at that time doctors gave her only a 50% chance of survival within 48
hours.
With ALLAH’s will, prayers from family and friends, our endless support
and obviously medical staff from East Shore Hospital as well as KKH, our
warrior princess Mehrnaz pulled through. She spent 10 days in Isolation Room at
the NICU and another about 20 days in the High dependency ward before being
discharged. I spent everyday day in the hospital with her from morning to
night. At night, I woke up every 2-3 hours to express milk for her supply in
the hospital. And this goes on for the whole month. My mom helped me watch over
Neelu on some days and on other days, she goes the daycare centre at the same
hospital, since I used to work in KKH too.
During her first 3 years of life, Mehrnaz is one tough
cookie. She has always been very temperamental and very hot tempered. At times,
I just lost it! I am very sure the teachers at her daycare can vouch for it.
She looks so sweet and innocent BUT she is a very tough kid. She loves to hang
out more with the boys. She climbs the window panels like a SPIDERMAN with the
lil boys in the infant room.
Once she moved to the Toddler class, she displays a very
strong character, I call that STUBBORN!
Thankfully the teachers at Learning Vision @ KKH during
those years are wonderful and very patient. They tolerated her and eventually
managed to calm her lil more. As time goes by, she became less hot tempered and
temperamental.
When she was around 4 years old, I quit my job and became a
SAHM. She therefore has to be transferred to a PCF Kindergarten near my home. This
move saw another change in her; she became more reserved and anti-social. She
refused to participate in class activities and play with only selected friends.
I am not sure if it has anything to do with that school. About a year later, we
moved to Pasir Ris and she attends another PCF Kindergarten nearby our new
home, and in this school I can see her change for the better.
She still has that strong character and very straight
forwards with her views, however, she made more friends now, participate in
class activities and most importantly will never ever want to miss a day of
school. She loves going to school. She also surprised me when she expressed her
desire to take part in pageants like how Neelu always did. Previously, when I
sign Neelu up for pageants, Mehr will not want. She does not like the
attention, so I do not want to force her. I always want them to do things they
enjoy.
Since this time she wants to join, I signed both of them up
for this particular pageant. Hmmmm….. But sadly I feel that was the biggest
mistake I made for Mehrnaz!
That was our first time joining this type of big scale
pageants, so I did not know that is a “BUY YOUR OWN TIARA” kind of pageant. The
more u spent in the pageant, the higher your chance of getting crowned.
Honestly, I have heard if such things in pageants involving adults but with
KIDS, that’s my first encounter and definitely the last!
Mehr started off being very shy during the first few
rehearsals but gradually she transformed to this girl who is more confident. She
did the Q & A, the beachwear and also performed a talent show.
Sadly, during the final she is the only kid in that
category that did not get anything. In fact, there are only 4 of them in that
category. One kid refused to do it at the last minute and left 3. It was quite shocking
to see them crown 2 winners for that same category for the same title. One of
the girls surely deserves it, she speaks, talks and walks very well, but the
other kid, her parent spent a BOMB and that we know!
Honestly, she really did
not do well but from what I heard later, they got to crown her coz he parent spent a
lot on the pageant. Pffft!!! And that not only pisses me off, it hurts Mehr’s
pride very badly. Since then she took another turn and became very negative.
She always believes that she cannot do well.
After that event, for the 1st
time Mehr broke down, she told me that they are so unfair. In her words “But
that girl never walk properly, only bang anyhow on the drum set for talent and
they give her a crown! I hate them!” That breaks my heart and I told myself
never will I ever put any of my kids thru these kind of things!
So yeah, that brought her down again, but we never gave up
on her! Soon, she got offered a role for Ollie and Friends Season 2 and many
more TVCs etc... I told her then,” See, if you have real talent, it takes real
people to recognize you, and that particular girl do not even get the chance to
do things like you are doing now” It made her feel a lil better but still not
so confident yet.
Finally, this year after her Throwback: Balik Kampong
adventure, and also encouragement from her school principal for her to give a
speech in school, my warrior princess emerged again! She came back one day
telling me that she wants to take part in her school story telling competition.
I let her tried it out; she auditioned for it and got selected to represent her
class. And she surprised us even more on stage when she spoke so fluently and
with full confidence.
She even got a 2nd prize for that competition.
And since then, I see her positive side again and now she
takes pride in all her work. She even got nominated as a Model Pupil this
month.
Anyway, what prompted me to write this lengthy post was
today’s episode of Throwback: Balik Kampong. I wasn’t there when the kids were
doing the drawing and what Rozz said is very true, if nothing is done about her
being so negative about herself, it’s going to be a problem later for her in
life J
Anyway, each kid is different. Each of them has their own
strength and weakness. You got to spend as much time as possible with them to
notice their changes and guide them along the way. Childhood comes once in your
kids’ lifetime, so don’t miss it.
All the above is just my personal honest opinion through my
own experience,
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