No one is perfect, therefore no relationship can be perfect. Often by seeing the dry brown petals in a rose, you appreciate more the vivid red petals that are so beautiful. At the core of our relationship there is a very deep respect and love for one another, so as we continue to grow and change as individuals, our relationship will continue to grow stronger and become more beautiful. May this home we build through the ups and downs be forever blessed.
While mummy is sick & resting, Papa transformed Neelu into
SUPERNEELU!!!
Anyway, for those of you waiting for pix of last week's outing, they are finally uploaded.
However, you need to be contact on our MULTIPLY to view them! This is done for the sake of SECURITY & PRIVACY of Me & My Family :)
CLICK HERE TO VIEW THEM!!
If someone were to like me, its at their own will.
Dun have to be forced nor do you have to PRETEND!!!
All this while never once have I ever mentioned any NEGATIVE stuff about my in-laws or any unhappiness they might have ACCIDENTALLY caused me or I caused them.
However, after coming across my hubby’s youngest sister blogspace, I FELT SO DAMN HURT & CHEATED!!!
Especially to read on her previous posts dated as far back as a year ago!!
Saadiah, let me make myself clear here on this BLOG (coz I know you read my blog!) since you too vent your frustrations online!
I HATE IT when anybody TALK about MY FAMILY!
You must be surprised to know that I came across your blog, & just for your info, now your brother Azim, is reading your blog too. How I came across your blog is becoz my SIL got thru ur link from her blogger friend, That same SIL whom you commented on in one of your posts!
First of all, neither of my family members ever look down on ANY OF YOU! If you need to know, ask ASAD how well my aunts, mum, cuzzins & even my LATE DAD treated him whenever he was around with us. Maybe because he is not so SNOBBISH nor "QUIET".
Secondly, you dun have to judge my SIL this way,
"even her sil who looks so sweet n all neva once spoke 2 us on d 3 occasions tt v met xcept once just now wen she told me, " des an empty chair over der." i replied tt it's taken!
Point 3 –
"each time v have 2 face her relatives, dey juz look at us in a way liek we're sum poor gals from a poor family n dey're liek d rich ones, get wat i mean. " –Just for your info, we have never been so proud that way & never thought of ourselves that HIGHLY! Unlike your family member, who ever passed a remark about me coming from a broken family & that means that I am not fit to be MARRIED to YOUR BROTHER!!! WTH, do u think your family is so perfect??!
Point 4 –
"n i felt so suffocated with em all speaking malay n dey 2 spoke 2 my nilo in malay! i felt like telling em off not 2 speak to nilo in a mixture of malay n english!" –Just in case you forgot, NEELU is my daughter & I have all the right to speak to her in a any language I like, just as Azim & his family has the right to speak to her on URDU! If u felt that suffocated, you have all the right to tell ur BROTHER that you wanna LEAVE instead of staying on just to get JUICY stuff to gossip about! And also, I am a local SINGAPOREAN & am brought up speaking in MALAY, so let me remind you once again Neelu will need to understand her MOTHER-TONGUE too! And she have to grow-up not being so RACIST & BIASE.
Point 5 –
"n i felt so helpless when they all carried nilo away n played with her n wen dey were like trying 2 "pair" my nilo with sum kid! my nilo deserves smtg betta den tt!" –Why must you feel that way?? She is not only YOUR NIECE! She is their niece too……. & Who are you to judge if my nephew whom we were "pairing" Neelu with is good for her or not! FOR GOD’S SAKE, she is just 2 yrs old. And I am not those kind of parents who will force my children to marry anyone I LIKE! WE WERE JUST PLAYING AROUND & TEASING ONE ANOTHER!! Maybe this is one thing u will never understand coz ur relationship wif ur cuzzins are so FAKE! I definitely DO NOT WANT Neelu to grow up being so FAKE!
Point 6
– "d food was great n all but yet dos 2 suckers didnt even eat d food wich i cooked with so much of pain n trouble despite fasting! huh, goondus! n wtf was wrong wit her fter returning frm muhammadiyah, dunt tell me she suddenly hated cuming 2 my hse fter spending 2hrs ++ wit her relatives der?? or was it tt she was hungry n feeling very warm n my bro was still very full after his prata breakfast! or was it nilo who irritated d hell outta her by her incessant crying for wanting 2 bathe? i've 2 admit i seriuosly dunt liek dis behaviour of hers. each time she's liek dis, it really makes all of us very uneasy n we start wondering wat was it tt v did tt has upset her" –Once again, your own JUDGEMENT! It also surprise me as to how rude you are in calling me names, such as "GOONDU", when at home infront of your mum you pretended to be SO POLITE & SWEET! At least, this is one thing about me which I AM PROUD OF, when I dun like someone I TELL THEM straight into their face & if need to end the relationship there & then! Anyway, yes I was moody coz I am tired, feeling so warm & NEELU’S unnecessary crying is bothering me NOT BECAUSE of the fact that I AM HUNGRY FOR THE FOOD U COOK! And in the first place, I did not ask you to COOK for me!
As with regards to how rude you wanna speak about your brother is your problem BUT just dun mess wif me unnecessarily!
Ok, now come to the point about the SMS regarding ASAD & NADIA,
*ps- Sorry Nadia, to have to include your name in here as well
This is how your post goes : -
"it was supposed 2 b a yes or no answer 2 her qtn. her sms: Good morning, so have you got permission to come over to our place today? Neelu will be very happy if you can make it. my reply, after consulting mummy:Unfortunately d ans is still no. Abbu said tt since bhaijaan n u're on Asad's side n tt nadia drops by ya place, he's very unhappy bout it n it saddens him tt he's oso following in his eldest bro's footsteps. As for neelu dear being happy, she's happy being with ny1. n der was no exchange of nymore sms till sum 4.5 hrs later. her sms: We're supporting him cos we dont think he's doin anything wrong n also cos i know how it feels not to have any family support when needed.
– This reply is not from ME! Its from your BROTHER! He used my phone to reply to ur message! SO get your facts rite before passing any remarks & create more TENSION!Gawddd....mummy hit d roof when she read dis! mummy felt very hurt n angered at her dil's remarks. frankly speaking, it only made me feel tt after all what abbu's been doin is right. if yur own bro supports u in smtg tt yur parens dunt, des bound 2 b lotsa clashes..."
Next point :
"And guess wat?? Nilo and my sil came down to my place on wednesday while i was at the interview!! Gosh, i was surprised how she actually came after what she said, wrote and did! I think she was feeling a bit guilty and awkward and i did not really entertain her." I came not for you or anyone else but for MY FAMILY, since I have no classes! Anyway, just to clear your doubts, NO I DUN FEEL GUILTY coz I DID NO WRONG IN WATEVER I WROTE or DID! Only when u become a MOTHER, will u then understand my anger & hurt of not being informed! Also, I dun really care if you do entertain me or not coz MY DAUGHTER is there with me!
Well, as for the rest of your baseless accusations about me on your post, I dun wish to elaborate here COZ I dun give a F@@K!
BUT there’s only 1 final thing I HAVE TO SAY!
You can keep the pendant! NEELU is not short of any jewellery & not so desperate for any that you have to even comment as such :
"and i got myself a 0.002 carat diamond ring in return prices very reasonably low and a pendant for nilo! still thinking when should i give it to her considering her mom's attitude the past week!!"In my family, at least watever they get for Neelu is SINCERELY meant for her & NOT BASED on her mum’s behaviour or any of those sort!
Anyway, I am thankful for all the clothes, accessories & food that have been given to ME & my daughter all this while for the past 1yr, BUT that doesn’t mean you can just step & walk all over me anytime you like!
** For the rest of those who know the story of how me & hubby got married will definitely know why I am SO UPSET now!!!**
